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My earlier venture into blogging was to capture the escapades of my kids. Very soon, I did realise that there was a lot more of stuff that demanded to be "penned down". Not wanting to turn the kids' blog into an "everything under the big blue sky" blog, I decided to start another one - and this is it !! "Anything and everything under the big blue sky" that catches my attention and says "pen me down" will be found here.

Saturday, August 12, 2006

Feminists - to be or not to be

"FEMINISM - WHERE ART THOU ????? !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

screamed a colleague of mine - way back in 1990. Five of us had just joined the same bank and had been sent to New Delhi for training - cos a branch of the bank was being inaugurated there a month later.

Delhi being what it is, or rather, us having heard a lot about Delhi and the eve-teasing that people use as a synonym for the city, we used to be scared to venture out of the hotel after 8 pm or so.

We just used to go over to the training centre for our dinner and rush back to the safe confines of our hotel.

One of our colleagues was told by some other enterprising individual that STD rates to Bombay were just about a quarter of the normal rates at some STD booth. The catch - the call had to be made between 2 am to 5 am.

This colleague of ours was making grand plans to sneak out of the hotel in the wee hours of the morning whilst the rest of us chose to err on the side of caution.

That was when this scathing remark came about !!

Come to think of it, what exactly is feminism ?

Are women who claim to be "feminists" trying to prove that they are more feminine than their counterparts who don't walk around claiming to be feminists or are they trying to say that they associate the word "feminine" with weakness, fragility or flimsiness ?

I've seen a lot of these "feminists" who go out of their way to prove that they can do it all.

I've never really been able to understand as to what exactly the "feminists" are out to prove.

There are a lot of women who excel in their professional fields while being extremely proficient and adept at managing the house as well. In some cases, one might go even to the extent of classifying them as schizophrenic lives but then, end of the day it works !!

Basically, they do not have to go around behaving as though men do not exist, or for that matter, even if they do acknowledge their existence - it is to consider that they have been sent to earth as unnecessary appendages.

What exactly are the "feminists" out to prove ??

This has been a question I've been asking myself and some of my so called feminist friends but to date, have not received a satisfactory reply - a reply which would make me stop considering this an unresolved quest.

Many a feminist scoffs at the idea of men holding doors open for women, waiting for ladies to get into the elevator first, holding chairs out for ladies etc...

But, if you ask me, personally, I do like the very idea of men holding doors open or waiting for ladies to get into elevators or get out of the elevators first etc...

I would say those are the privileges associated with being a lady.

And if a lot of the so called "feminists" out there consider these a sign of weakness, feebleness or flimsiness, then all I have to say is - SO BE IT !!


Anonymous Hunky Dude said...

Well i female friends love the idea of a guy holding the door or a chair for them....and as for the so called "feminists" who think they can do it all,tell them to meet Subu in the gym!

1:39 PM  
Anonymous harsha said...

gauri... the feminists i've come across r so into being "the guy" they hardly are satisfied with anything at all... i used 2 have those queries but then realised its not worth it.... rather just enjoy being the lady....

11:38 AM  

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